PRLog (Press Release) - May 24, 2012 - John Gray, Ph.D. has been a relationship therapist for 30 years. He has helped men and women understand, respect and appreciate their differences in both personal and professional relationships. He continues to train coaches with Mars Venus Coaching on an ongoing basis. He was recently interviewed by Vavasaur Magazine. Vavasaur was started by Dorothy Briggs and is distributed in Alberta, Canada. The magazine profiles successful men in business.
The 2012 Vavasaur Magazine profiles men in business, entrepreneurs, and men who have products and services to sell. This issue is the third annual edition. The magazine recognizes men from all walks of life from tradesmen, politicians, professionals, entertainers, health and wellness, sales and marketing and many more. “Vavasaur Magazine gives these men an opportunity to connect with potential clients they would not normally meet. Our job is making people aware these wonderful men exist and they really want your business,” said Dorothy Briggs, Publisher with Vavasaur.
The magazine will be on the stands in Alberta. The magazines are complimentary and are placed at grocery stores, banks, shopping centers, professional offices, schools, airports (Edmonton & Calgary) convenience stores, as well as hundreds of locations throughout the province. The interview will also be available on their website shortly after the magazine is on stands.
John’s books have sold over 50 million copies in 50 different languages. His groundbreaking book, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, was the best-selling book of the 1990s. It launched his Mars Venus book series that forever changed the way men and women view their relationships.
“The interview was phenomenal and what an exceptional platform the magazine provides for business men. We look forward to reading the magazine next month,” said Rich Bernstein, President & CEO, Mars Venus Coaching.
For more information about Mars Venus Success Coaching or Mars Venus Executive Training, contact Rich Bernstein at Global Headquarters at 702-835-9295 and visit the website at: www.marsvenuscoaching.com or www.marsvenusexecutivetraining.com
Mars Venus Coaching is a global coaching company founded on the principles of best-selling author and speaker, Dr. John Gray. His 30 years of experience in the fields of psychology, gender differences, relationships, communication, personal success, productivity in the workplace, wealth generation, and coaching systems have made this company a world leader in personal and professional coaching. Mars Venus coaches can be found around the world, including United States, Central America, Europe, the Middle East, India, China and Australia.
CAN YOU DIE FROM LACK OF LOVE?
BY
R K Relan
A Grant MacEwan College Graduate
YES. A young actor died today. A friend of mine said it was due to too many prescription drugs. And I thought, “There are so many ways that we can die from lack of love; such as dying in a car accident after driving drunk. One drinks to kill the pain of being unloved.”
Here is the cause & effect formula for lack of love that I call:
The Relanium Formula Of Lack Of Love:
Lack of Love causes a chemical imbalance in brain leading to pain due to unfulfilled need and struggles to fulfill that need symbolically via Alcohol, Drugs {legal & illegal}, smoking, sex, masturbation and a sacrificial, selfless lifestyle to please others in the hope of being loved. All this results in A TOTAL FAILED LIFE ON ALL LEVELS, Physically, Martially, Financially, Emotionally and Professionally.
The drug companies have found molecules, say for serotonin, that we manufacture ourselves; or should I say “ought to” manufacture ourselves. Prescription drugs mimic what the body and brain naturally produce, all things being normal. But things are not always normal. We are learning that life before birth has hazards that can imprint us with such devastating pain that we are drained of our normal painkillers before we are even born. Then add to it a birth under heavy anesthetics and no one around immediately afterwards to hug and kiss the baby. As a bonus, add to the mix parents who are emotionally indifferent, emotional stones who have no idea about feelings, and we get an actor who overdoses on drugs. We need to get away from our abject morality. That is what is immoral; depriving humans of their needs.
Having said that, after 35 years of searching for the meaning of love, I have made the most important discovery of my life, that you can NOT ask or search or look for love, period. This discovery made me most depressed and sad to wonder if I cannot seek or search for love, then what happens if love does not find me. The answer became to me as important as the above discovery. Even though I have found that answer, I may not succeed in sharing the it as I would like to here in this article. I will still do my best to provide the answer in the limited space I have here.
Love, either you have it or you do not. If you have it I congratulate you, and if you do not, then you only have ONE choice, which is to accept that reality on its own terms. I have discovered three phases of life, Relanian Denial Phase Path of Life, Relanian Struggle Phase Path of Life and Relanian Acceptance Phase Path of Life {these phases will be elaborated on in my upcoming book, The Relanium Path to TRUTH of YOUR Life. Basically, in the unfortunate event of not being loved, you will need to create a Relanium Acceptance Phase Path Room in your home, preferably soundproof. Furthermore, you will need the loving support of a friend or family member, who will not judge you or give you unwise opinions about to how to live your life. Then, you simply need to accept the truth of being unloved at the molecular level of your being in the most natural way you can and for as long you need to.
Being unloved changes your physiology and makes you vulnerable to stressors that ordinarily should not be damaging. In other words when you feel unloved, whether you know it or not, it puts you under permanent stress. Then when something like air pollution happens it can affect you much more than others.
New research from the Keck School of Medicine at USC (June 2011. Also Science Daily, June 25, 2011. “ Exposure to Parental Stress Increases Pollution-Related Lung Damage in Children”, Amer. J. of Respiratory and Critical Care Medicine), shows that once we are neurotic (loaded with primal pain) outside events affect us more than normals. As traffic pollution increased in high stress households (not enough money, low education level, lack of health insurance and lack of air conditioning), lung function decreased. I am going to assume that it is not confined to traffic pollution. That carrying around a load of unloved pain makes us susceptible to things in life that ordinarily would not adversely affect us. It is rather obvious, isn’t it? When we walk around with high stress levels it doesn’t take much to slop over into symptoms. It just needs a trigger. So neurotics (high stress levels) will become allergic to antigens that would not affect a loved person, all else being equal. And they will spend their lives going to allergy specialists who will do test after test and never find neurosis. They will find the results of it but not “IT.”
What is worse, is that the neurosis may have been set in during our lives while we were being carried inside our mother. Her fights with her husband may be the key to why the allergy is there in the first place. Her stress becomes her baby’s stress level which the baby carries forward in life as an imprint. And so this child has a greater tendency to inflammation and infection later in life. Spells at the emergency clinic testify to that. In some cases there is a common pathway between the pain of being unloved or traumatized very early on and the effects of antigens or pathogens. They live in the same house, so to speak, and react as an ensemble. Suffice to say that when your physiology is seriously affected other bad things will affect it and you will suffer. Not just from the antigens or bacteria, but from a body that is totally vulnerable before you even set foot on this planet.
So now we get an idea about such afflictions such as epilepsy, or migraines or high blood pressure, etc. For when there is a bit of damage it plays on the neurotic platform and thereby lowers the bar for symptoms. In short, neurosis, adds to the physical damage in such a way that the symptom becomes manifest, or apparent. And without the background of neurosis there may be damage, let’s say, antigens, pollen in abundance, yet no allergic symptoms. That is why we have had success with epileptics and migraine sufferers; we have raised the bar against their appearance. In other words, we have lowered the possibility for symptoms by lowering the background noise. The allergy may still be there, at least its tendency, but it is not enough to make us sick.
The best example I can give regarding feeling that truth is from the movie: Something’s Gotta Give,starring Jack Nicholson and Diane Keaton, released by Columbia Pictures and Warner Brothers in 2003. In that movie, Diane Keaton cried day and night after having her heart broken by Jack Nicholson. Now that was a movie, but the concept is not.
We have now established the fact that either you are loved or you are not. Love is the only feeling that must come totally independently, freely from your lover. It is not love if you have to ask for it. My book outlines how to discover the truth and then feel the truth on its own terms. That is the basis for the Relanium Acceptance Phase Path of life and what the book is all about.
One thing I can assure you of is that in the unfortunate event you are unloved in life, you can stop struggling to be loved by sacrificing your life for others and stop denying that reality in the hope that it does not exist. I was an (un?)loved and unwanted child and for 35 years I denied and struggled to change the factual history of my life. 35 years later I am still unloved and alone but with wisdom about love and real truths about life. The only regret I have is that I did not discover the Relanium Acceptance Phase Path of Life earlier. This article is dedicated to everyone who feels unloved silently in his heart and soul and wonders what he did wrong to not have love in his life. You did nothing wrong. The truth of the matter is that we live in a world that has no comprehension of what love is. It is the most abused and misunderstood word in the English language. At the same time, love or lack of it, is the force that keeps the motor of the life running at full stream. If you lack love, then you will run your motor of life on the path of lies and every night you will need drugs {legal & illegal}, smoking, alcohol, sex, self denial and a false sense of hope that some {usually imaginary} being loves you. I can change all that for you, not by making you feel loved but helping you to accept the ‘unloved’ truth of your life. Ironically, once you do that, you will probably find love around the corner from where you are. Just like Diane Keaton did in the movie Something’s Gotta Give.
R K RELAN
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DID SOMEONE SAY VACATION????
What do you think of when you hear the word summer? I think of vacation. It doesn’t mean I go on vacation; I just associate the word vacation when I think of summer. There usually is some type of packing that has to happen when one goes on a vacation. If you are packing for more than one person, it can become a challenge. The challenge doesn’t only involve what to bring, but it also can involve not forgetting anything. I hope you find the following tips useful:
² Usually for a week’s holiday, 4 – 5 outfits should be sufficient. If your accommodations have laundry facilities, you may even get away with packing less. A mixture of casual and dressy should do the trick with mixing and matching. Don’t forget the underwear and socks too!
² Shoes – these tend to take up a ton of room. Evaluate what kind of vacation you are going on. Will you be doing a lot of walking? Will you be going out to fancy establishments? Remember to choose shoes that will be kind to your feet.
² Bathroom essentials – shampoo, soap, hair products, deodorant, toothbrush/paste, etc. These liquids can be packed in a large baggie. If there does happen to be a spill, it won’t ruin your clothes.
² Medications – for some people, they could be packing a few bottles. One tip is to pack only the medication that you will need (put all medication in an extra pill bottle) and leave the remainder at home.
² Technology – iPod, camera, GPS, laptop, cell phone, etc. With all of this technology, don’t forget the charging cables. Again, a large baggie works well to keep all of the cords in.
² Documents – wallet, driver’s license, passport, birth certificate, airline tickets, phone numbers, etc. For some people, they like to put their paperwork in a folder or a small duo-tang and take it with them on their carry-on.
Having a pre-made template may help keep the packing to a minimum. For my family, we use a very simple template that looks something like this:
Clothes
Bathroom
Must Bring
As items are packed, they are either checked off or crossed off of the list. We also pack this list to ensure we don’t forget anything when we come home.
Happy Vacationing everyone!
Empowering Families for Financial Health
A Certified Management Accountant, business owner, health and wealth coach, trainer, and author, Kim has over two decades of experience in business and finance. Kim is the founder and President of Kidz Make Cents and The Family Wealth Academy, organizations dedicated to empowering families and youth to become financially independent.
